Many words we use today we use every day has its origin in Latin. I often refer to Latin in the sense of the meaning of words, because the translation of meaning is straightforward. There is no room for loose interpretation. I would like to refer to tolerance today. The word in Latin “tolerantio”, arose from the words – also Latin “tolerae,” or support. Yes, yes … depending on these two words, it is indispensable here to understand well what tolerance means. Additionally, when writing on behalf of our foundation, I am convinced that meaning is part of the StellaVirium mission.
This kind of thinking contains a cause and effect relationship. This is a rigid principle of logic that explains the relationship tolerance – support. One cannot exist without the other, at least not in an understandable way. Tolerance alone means accepting something not entirely pleasant for us. So why is it combined with support? When thinking of tolerance, it’s worth focusing on reciprocity. Reciprocity of experiences between different cultures, ways of life, requires tolerance, because not all cultural conditions can please us, and even arouse our indignation, but to remain open minds to others, we need acceptance. This begs the simple question. For what? Let me explain. I will use Eckhart Tolle’s quote here. Eckhart Tolle is a modern spiritual teacher and author of books and lectures on spirituality. It is not associated with any particular religion or tradition :
“Relationships are not to enjoy them, but to grow.”
This is a far-reaching statement, so let me not run away from the topic by dwelling on the first part of the sentence and focusing on this development. I think that the author meant the good truth that through relationships with other people, we develop. We see and get to know ourselves in the eyes of another person. To create a relationship with other people, we need tolerance. In terms of the definition – the acceptance of what is not quite what we like, and is someone’s … because everyone is somebody. It requires humility from us, but I think it’s a fair price, for relationships with other people, ergo – for the opportunity to grow. Following the path of our relationship, cause and effect, we “pay” our tolerance for the difference of another human being, in order to have a chance of reciprocity with him and thus, simply develop in our humanity. As I write this text, I have memories of my Saint’s sayings. Baby memory. He often used to say:
“Where two are fighting, they both lose.”
I think his saying has a great use here. You can always argue with someone, reject reciprocity and therefore close yourself, but we both lose it. A common topic of many spiritual considerations is whether tolerance has its limits? I think he has and is often confused with affirmation. It is obvious that the freedom of one man ends where the other begins and in this place we should put a strong border. Reciprocity, by its very definition, requires the involvement of the other party, so the greater reciprocity understood as mutual involvement, the wider our borders may be. In the case of unilateralism, there is no tolerance and thus there is no question of opening our borders.